You Deserve the Right to feel beautiful, confident, and Sexy

Having one of the top boudoir blogs in the world allows me to let women know that there is no "mold" be had when getting in front of the camera and having a shoot. Currently, every industry is having a come-to Jesus moment where they finally see that Beauty is not a one size fits all bra. There are different women and each type of beauty needs to be normalized and celebrated.

When some clients come to see me they are a bit apprehensive because of these inaccurate idealogues that we have all consciously and unconsciously absorbed. I always challenge my clients to get out of their heads during our session and only focus on each other. I want them to be intuned with their higher feminine power and completely own the session to help create the photos of their dreams.

Q: How did you feel shooting with Wonderland Boudoir?

A: I felt as if I could take on the world. I normally struggle with self-confidence as I have always felt like I could never do a shoot because I didn’t “fit the mold”, I wasn’t “pretty enough” and I’ve never seen people who looked like me doing photo shoots. Korin put me at ease and helped me feel comfortable enough to drop all of my fears and worries and I just let myself dive headfirst into the experience. Korin helped me bring my sexy, confident side front and center in every shot she took. She helped guide me through the entire shoot and hands down it has been the best shoot I’ve ever done. A true artist, professional, and a master of her craft.

Q: What did you learn from your session that really helped you?

A: She helped guide me through the poses and how to present and project certain “moods” into the shots. She also helped find my best angles for shots and it’s as if she already knew what areas of my body I was self-conscious of and she helped me put my best self out there.

Q: What was your favorite part about getting ready for your second session?

A: Honestly, challenging myself to do better. I wanted to take all that I was taught and take it to the next level. Andddd I also had fun looking at all the cute outfits that I could wear 😊

Q: How was shooting outside for you? Would you suggest that for other women wanting a boudoir session?

A: I had a crowd of people looking up at me and I felt like a total babe. I’m usually a little reserved and shy and to come out of my shell....with my ass out...with a crowd of people below me was a whole new experience for me. I was like, “Damn, I guess I am foine”. I would say, it’s a different way to come out of your comfort zone and try something new. Don’t focus on your fears, but on you and Korin. She is here for you, you are here for you and everything else is just background noise.

Q: What is something that you learned about yourself after your second session?

A: That I should focus on myself, tend to my own needs and love myself more. I’ve always been used to putting myself and my needs/desires on the back burner because someone needed help with something, I wasn’t confident enough or I stepped up to help ease or assist others when they needed it most so often that I would neglect myself and my needs. I knew what it felt like to go through tough times alone and how much I would have liked someone to help me so I made a promise to be that person for someone whenever they needed it. I guess I got so lost in being there the moment someone needed help because I didn’t want them to go through what I felt, so I poured myself into their problems and focused on helping them get back on their feet that I neglected myself and my own problems. I still struggle with it but the boudoir session helped put that into perspective for me.

Q: What are some suggestions that you would give other women considering a boudoir session for the first or second time?

A: Let go of that negative voice in your head that says you can’t do this. Boudoir is for everyone and you deserve the right to feel beautiful, confident, and sexy in your own skin. Come in ready to have fun and ready to show the world your best self.

Q: Please add any final thoughts you might have.

A: I absolutely loved my experience and I’m ready to go back with my best foot forward.

Ms. R said it better than I ever could have: "Boudoir is for everyone and you deserve the right to feel beautiful, confident, and sexy in your own skin." Sheeeeeeeh.

Listen, you deserve to do the damn session. You deserve to put yourself first. Like Ms. R said. I will be there for you during your shoot. You should be there during your shoot.

Boudoir photography is the love of my life. I live this art. I firmly believe that all women need their own session and I encourage all of you to shoot with us. Please fill out the form below and we will get back to you as soon as possible.

LGBT+ Represenation in Boudoir

Having a boudoir blog is the best, especially when my clients permit me to use their photos. One of my favorite clients is Ms. X. This was her second time shooting with us, and just like her first set, these photos came out I C O N I C.

Just like her first set, we repped the LGBT+ community. I love that Ms. X is unapologetic about who she is and what she's about. Her set moves me because she owns that. Representation Matters. I am so happy that she proudly reps. I am honored that she allows me to capture that.

Here is an interview that we had discussing her second set with us. My favorite answer is the last question.

Boudoir Client Experience:

Q: This was your second time shooting with Wonderland Boudoir. How did you feel going through your second session with us?

A: I absolutely loved it! Korin makes shooting easy and you feel comfortable to be yourself in your own skin!

Q: What did you learn from the last session that helped you with this one?

A: Not having fear in front of the camera, and taking direction when getting in certain shots.

Q: What was your favorite part about getting ready for your second session?

A: Choosing the setting and theme of the shoot.

Q: How was shooting outside for you? Would you suggest that for other women wanting a boudoir session?

A: I believe shooting outside gives a different feel in natural light. I enjoyed it. We definitely got the shot!

Q: How was shooting outside for you? Would you suggest that for other women wanting a boudoir session?

A: I believe shooting outside gives a different feel in natural light. I enjoyed it. We definitely got the shot!

Q: What is something that you learned about yourself after your second session?

A: How much I grew from the first, mentally and physically.

Q: What are some suggestions that you would give other women considering a boudoir session for the first or second time?

A: Own it, don't worry about other people's opinions. It's about you, for you. Own your confidence and remain authentic.

Q: For your third session what would your ultimate goal be?

A: I would take more photos outside, maybe go for some riskier photos.

Q: Please add any final thoughts you might have.

A: I think boudoir is about owning and defining how you feel. There is beauty in knowing yourself and not being afraid to expose yourself on a different level sexually.

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Vitiligo Boudoir: In my Skin, I Win

One of the biggest pleasures in shooting boudoir is meeting and capturing Ms. I. She is the first boudoir client I have photographed with vitiligo.

Ms. I is an incredible woman with a beautiful story. Too often, people think boudoir is just about getting in front of the camera and looking pretty. But as we all know, there is so much more to boudoir than just getting dolled up. It's about the story that leads women to this moment. While Ms. I's story may be triggering to some, it serves as a beautiful inspirational narrative influenced by embracing your full self-worth ONLY validated by you.

Q: I just have to say it, your confidence level is out of this world! Have you always been this confident? If not, how did you learn to be confident?

A: Oh good God no! I had low confidence since I was a teenager because I didn't like how my body was built. I was literally shaped like a lower case letter "i" and had no boobs and butt. Then I was a late bloomer in college and thanks to track and field, I finally got a butt but still no boobs. For the longest, I thought I had a "man" body and was too muscular and not curvy. While I was in college, I developed vitiligo which increased my insecurities because the dermatologist said, "I'm so sorry...and you had such beautiful brown skin." I felt cursed. Unfortunately having low confidence and self-esteem can attract the wrong people in your life which led me to get raped by a wolf in sheep's clothing. I continued to beat myself and hated the image that I saw in the mirror. Then there comes a point that even in your lowest moment, the only direction you can truly look is up. The truth to life is that nobody will love you more than you ever love yourself. So treat yourself right. With that in mind, I accepted my circumstances (thank you Serenity prayer) and started to take pride in my skin condition and view myself as a "work of art."

Q: You were a delight to work with. When planning your boudoir session, what emotions were you feeling?

A: No lie I was super nervous because I NEVER thought in my life I would be right for a boudoir shoot. When I think of boudoir, I think of Victoria's Secret models who have an idealistic body with perfect boobs and hour shape body. I didn't have that type of body, but I was willing to embrace the challenge. Once the nerves went away, I got excited because I'm about to do something that will break an old mental wall that I carried since I was a teenager.

Q: Compared to before the session, how did you feel during and after the shoot?

A: Once I tried on the beautiful one-piece lingerie, I was shocked because I never thought that I had the body for lingerie. I looked at myself in the mirror, embraced the image, and felt empowered because I knew that this shoot will be special. The boudoir shoot was the first time that I felt truly sexy in a genuine way. I'm an awkward nerd, but the boudoir session brought out an inner sex kitten that I didn't know existed. For the first time ever, I felt a "model's" high after the shoot. It was like holy sh*t I did it! I broke a mental wall that held me back from really loving myself. Thanks to that shoot, I'm more motivated than ever to buy more lingerie and participate in more boudoir shoots.

Q: We shoot a lot of women, all with incredible stories and backgrounds. However, you are the first person who we had the privilege of capturing who has Vitiligo. I love how you have owned this. I know learning about this for some people can be really hard. How did you own this and what do you hope to teach people about Vitiligo?

A: It took me a very long time to own my vitiligo instead of letting vitiligo own me. As a matter of fact, I remember watching an episode of America's Next Top Model, and Shaun Ross (model with albinism) exuded so much confidence and comfort in his skin, and he brought up his campaign that he was running. He said the one phrase that's still embedded in my head forever. "In my skin, I win!" Once Shaun said that a light bulb came on in my head, and I started to view my spots as if they were art pieces in my body canvas.

My biggest hope is that images of myself and others with vitiligo will help people in society to not look at us or others with physical imperfections as freaks or with pity. We're humans just like everybody else and beautiful too with our perfect imperfections.

Q: There seems to be a change in tide with the concept of beauty in our world, especially in the world of vitiligo. One of the most famous names right now is Winnie Harlow. How does the expansion of beauty norms make you feel?

A: I'm so inspired and ecstatic. Winnie Harlow opened the doors for many of us with vitiligo, and it's a breath of fresh air to see other people with vitiligo in photoshoots or acting. I'm happy to see that the definition of the "standard of beauty" is changing and helping others who are insecure to embrace themselves.

Q: What is one misconception about vitiligo that you would like to clear up?

A: Unfortunately there is a good amount of ignorant people who believe that vitiligo is a "curse" from the bible (in reference to having leprosy). We're not cursed, and there's a difference between having leprosy and vitiligo. We're human beings and not bad "cursed" people.

Q: You are also an actress. What inspired you to get into acting and who are some of the greats whose careers you admire?

A: I loved the attention I got from friends and family as a kid when I told stories and doing impressions of others. My mom exposed me to a lot of theater plays and movies; therefore I knew that acting was my creative outlet for expressing myself. As for actors, I absolutely love Viola Davis and Meryl Streep. Meryl Streep is the prime example that you don't have to be super gorgeous to make it but let your talent do the talking for you. Viola Davis is everything to me. You know you're a phenomenal actress if doing the ugly cry with snot running out of your nose will help you win an Oscar (Movie Fences) or Emmy (How to Get Away With Murder).

Q: If there is one thing you want the world to learn about you, what would you want to convey?

A: In the words of Janelle Monae, "Even if it makes others uncomfortable, I will love who I am."

I really hope Ms. I story resonates with at least one person. Feel free to share her inspirational journey with your friends and family members. I cannot wait to have the chance to capture this beautiful soul again.

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5 Important Life Lessons from Call Me Daddy Interview with Mia Khalifa

This was the first Call Her Daddy podcast I have ever watched. I had heard about Call Her Daddy a lot last year due to the two original hosts having a very public falling out. Honestly, I couldn't tell you any details about the ordeal... just that podcast in the Hip-Hop arena I listen to (Joe Budden) was even talking about them.

I decided to listen to this podcast because Alex was interviewing Mia Khalifa. Admittedly, I didn't know too much about Ms. Khalifa before listening to her on Call Her Daddy but the LITTLE of her story I did know was very intriguing. If I'm going to be TOTALLY honest, I didn't listen to any previous podcast Mia was on because she was often being interviewed by men. I just wasn't interested in the male perspective of who she was. However, seeing her sit down with another woman, Alex in this case, intrigued me to listen to her. Boy was I blown away.

Let me just get this out of the way. Alex is an excellent interviewer. The dynamic between her and Mia could be felt instantly. It was like listening to two best friends who hadn't seen each other in years catching up over a girls' night in. The interview was fun, honest, raw, and inspirational.

As a new listener, I like that Alex calls the listeners “Daddy Gang” (not followers or fans… she’s likable and not pretentious). I also respected how she set up the interview. She really wanted to get to know Mia on a personal level. The night before the interview they met up to discuss what Mia would be comfortable talking about. To me, this is an important way to establish trust, especially with a young woman who has been through so much in such a short period of (still) her young adult life.

I really appreciated how authentically raw Mia decided to be. It’s important for us to express our truths. It’s interviews like these that will help at least one young girl out as she navigates this world and her self-identity.

This interview made Mia 4 dimensional. She is a young woman that people should, and can, look up to.

Here are the 5 most important lessons I found in the Call Me Daddy interview with Mia Khalifa:

1.) Don't look for validation through men (or anyone for that matter)

If you have been following me on the blog for a while, then you know that I think it’s very important for women to know that they can never seek validation through men.

Other people cannot validate who you are as a person. Only you can do that. This is something that needs to be instilled in every girl. These girls turn into women. Every single day we need to instill these types of values into our daughter, nieces, granddaughter, grandnieces, godchildren. They must not make the mistake of looking for their value through people who don’t even know their own.

She touches on toxic manipulated relationships and the fact that she got into them because she didn’t think highly of herself. She thought these relationships were the best that she deserved and would overextend herself and overdeliver just to keep this person happy.

One of the things that helped her start growing and understanding how detrimental her behavior was, when she realized in her most toxic relationship that she was living and thinking, not for her best interest, but the interest of other people. She was pleasing people not worthy of her, instead of taking care of herself.

When she realized she was wearing a self-given handcuff, she released herself from those shackles. She learned how she was being used and how she was allowing these people to tell her what she was worth, not the other way around.

Alex brings it home when she says, "the way that you feel about yourself directly impacts the partner that you chose." The girl took them to church with that one.

2.) Body Image - Connect with your Authentic Inner Beauty First

A woman should do whatever she wants to do with her body. However, I do suggest that people not undergo cosmetic surgery if they’re doing it to please other people. If you are doing it for you and it’s only for you, go for it. But if you’re doing it so people can find you attractive, then take some time to reconsider.

What happens is, if you’re not happy with yourself before the surgery? You’ll get temporary happiness, then go back to finding “something else wrong” with you. Generally, there is nothing physically wrong. It's just the perception of what you think society finds attractive.

In Mia’s case, she thought it was her breast that was making her feel low and self-conscience about herself. It wasn’t.

Even after the 60lbs weight loss and the breast implants and breast lift… she still saw that chubby girl. Because she didn’t deal with the core of her issue she couldn’t connect with her authentic inner beauty because all she could do is still see and feel that chubby girl that game to America in 2001.

Because she couldn’t see that, she was clinging on to men that didn’t deserve her because she didn’t think she deserved the attention.

3.) Therapy Needs to be Normalized

Going to Therapy has really allowed her to better love and understand herself. She, literally, sings the word therapy. “We need to normalize asking people if they are in therapy” she states to Alex.

I am so happy this country is starting to accept the amazing benefits of therapy. Mia started going to therapy around the age of 23 and she claims that it changed her life. She suggests that you should try many different therapists.

She compares it to dating, finding a trainer, or finding the right dermatologist. You’re not going to connect with the first one.

She states that therapy has helped her deal with the overall theme of shame for her. How shame has impacted her life. She believes this may be the number one issue for several people.

4.) Friendships are Important

Mia speaks so beautifully about her friendship with a woman named Rachel Ray (not the chef of the woman that Jay-Z (allegedly) cheated with). This is an important relationship to her because it’s the first time she felt unconditional love. She felt protected by having this person in her life. Rachel helped Mia rebuild her trust in others. Their friendship helped Mia understand that she was the type of relationship she needed to experience because it’s connections like these that help us understand who deserves to be in your life and who doesn’t.

Our friends see things in us that we don’t see in ourselves. Alex touches on this when they speak about the blowback Malala Yousafzai received after replying to Mia Khalifa calling her "bestie". Mia started getting imposter syndrome because she couldn’t understand how such an iconic leader like Malala could follower her.

But Alex drives a VERY important point home that really touches Mia, "she saw something in you. She followed you. She followed you for a reason".

5.) Mindset Change is Essential to Changing Your Life

Overall, changing her mindset by understanding her worth helped her leave toxic relationships.

Not only with these men but with herself. She started becoming unafraid to tell her story. She got out of the mindset of “people just won’t understand.” She advises women to take that step. She acknowledged that it’s scary, but she wants women to take that step and begin speaking with people about their stories.

I implore everyone to watch the full interview here. Let me know in the comments what you think.

3 Reasons Every Woman Needs to do a Boudoir Session

3 Reasons Every Woman Needs to do a Boudoir Session - Dallas Boudoir Mini Session

Having one of the top boudoir blogs in the world fills me with great pride. To celebrate that, today I want to provide three simple reasons why everyone woman needs to do a boudoir session.

1.) Celebrate Yourself

This life is so beautiful yet it goes by so quickly. At times we don't slow down enough to really appreciated it, or yourselves. There are many things in life to celebrate birthdays, accomplishments, milestones, major life changes, your healing. Whatever you're the reason, you should do it for yourself.

I love when women come in because they are getting married and want to surprise their partner. However, there is always a deeper meaning. Their partner may have been the supporting rock they needed to break through love, weight loss, or other accomplishments through life.

I have captured many women diagnosed with an assortment of different diseases. I have been blessed to know, to date, that none of my beautiful clients have transitioned from this life. However, they came in knowing that this may fade but they wanted to capture the moments before or after to remind themselves that no matter what happens that they celebrated who they are. That they could go back and have reminders of themselves that they have ALWAYS been that chick! I want the same for all my clients.

The fact of the matter is, in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years you’re going to look back and kick yourself for not appreciating how God-damn beautiful you were because you wasted so much time being insecure. Don’t regret appreciating your beauty. Even if you cannot see it at this very moment, you will thank yourself for having the shoot because it will show you how magnificent you always were.

2.) Boudoir Challenges your Mindset

You may think that cover models have it easy. They just come in, get dolled up, shoot for a couple of hours, secure the bag, and then leave. I find it hilarious that after each shoot, every single woman is exhausted, tired, and sore (some of the poses will really stretch you out).

Boudoir makes you get out of your comfort zone. Some of us (including myself) thrive in jeans, sweatshirts, sunglasses, and a messy bun. Boudoir asks you to challenge yourself by slipping into something sexy and unapologetically own your feminity.

Too often society has dictated what is feminine and ladylike. I am happy to see so many women are calling bullshit on these antiquated concepts and really falling into their divine feminine power. The only person who can define feminity is you.

Women are taught to feel ashamed for owning their sexuality. To want to look sexy for no one else but themselves. For not caring what other think. If you are feeling insecure because of these values, then you should do your boudoir session. Get out of your comfort zone. Do it for you.

3.) Spoil Yourself

It's no secret that boudoir is can be expensive. Normally, the more expensive, the better the photographer. However, you deserved to gift yourself.

At Wonderland Boudoir we provided a full-service boudoir session. Included in all our packages are hair, makeup, and location. We also have three fully loaded packages that include albums, photos, and prints.

Our hair and makeup team are the best. They always make sure you LOVE your look before your session. They stay through the full session to make sure you look great. They jump into the frame and make sure your hair still looks good, makeup is touched up so all you need to do is follow my direction for posing. No. You don't need to know how to pose before you come in. I will dedicate myself to you during our session to make sure you are getting the best photos and poses.

Everyone woman needs to do a boudoir session so they can celebrate who they, challenge their mindset, and spoil themselves!

DALLAS BOUDOIR MINI SESSION

Right now at Wonderland Boudoir, we are offering mini sessions for an AH-MAZING price. The trade-off is, we only have spots available on May 01, 2021. The shoots will take place in Dallas, Texas.

HERE IS WHAT YOU GET:

• Dates: May 01, 2021 at 10AM and 2PM

• Price: $738

• Length: 60 minutes

• Looks: Max 2

• Photos: 15 Page 8x12 Photo Alum

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What is Sexiness Really About?

What is Sexiness Really About?

Sexiness is all about your personality, being genuine, confident, and being a good person.

One of the most naturally sexy people I know is Ms. A. This outdoor boudoir photoshoot was extremely important for Ms. A and me to create together.

We took a situation that was bad and made it work. The truth is, I booked a makeup artist for this shoot. The makeup artist was supposed to arrive at 5:30AM... and he did, but he left because I overslept. I didn't wake up until 6AM. While Ms. A stayed around, he did not. Personally, I don't blame him.

In the interim of trying to rework this shoot, we found an even better concept that lied within it. This is why I always say when things don't go your way something better is about to come. God's Plan is a real concept, and I felt that this series personified that. Instead of completely nixing the idea because the makeup artist left (and would not return my calls... I laugh now), Ms. A suggested that she do the whole story without any makeup.

Why? She wanted to prove that women could be powerful, desirable, and beautiful without having to wear makeup. Ms. A had just recently given birth and she wanted to show that confident sexiness is created from within. Makeup should be used to enhance who we are, not veil it. Regardless if makeup is used or not, your natural sexiness and feminity will come through if you truly embrace and own your self-worth.

Therein lies the beauty of working with secure and confident women. In each one of these pictures, you can clearly see that Ms. A is extremely comfortable with who she is. Makeup, men, social media... none of that defines who she is or what she does.

I wish I could sprinkle her confidence on everybody that I shoot with. The world would be better off with women who validate their own beauty. There is no need for anyone to cosign who you are when you truly love the woman that you created.

Makeup is awesome... Don't get me wrong... but you shouldn't have to feel, as a woman, that you HAVE to wear makeup to be accepted. Makeup is a tool designed to enhance the beauty that is already there.

Be who you are.

You are built to be incredible.

Anyone who tells you differently

can go fuck themselves.

Major shoutouts to Ms. A. She merc'd this session! She got up at 5 a.m. on December 31st in cold as fuck weather to play around in lingerie before anyone in Downtown Dallas woke up. I always work with the best people either on the 31st of December or January 1st because that's how I want my year to start. Ms. A through the session showed me that 2018 was going to be about breaking the mold and challenging the status quo. Ms. A showed me through her ideas, action, spirit, and her work ethic, that in order to break out one must be different. Everyone needs an Alina in their life. Thank you woman!

Love,

Korin

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